Why kids grow up to be ungrateful little…well nevermind.

Coming home after two years was important to me. I have of course, seen my folks in the last two years, I just haven’t been to the place I call, home.

Home is wide winding roads, the smell of frankincense, the taste of shwarma and zatar and the comfort of my old room covered in embarrassing photographs of my siblings and I. It’s a reminder of simpler times when life was uncomplicated and bruised knees were our biggest problems.

My first few days were an absolute pleasure. I spent my days driving down to the beach, shopping, eating more than I needed and lazing around. My parents have recently taken to fruit carving. To those of you who know me well, I’d like inform you that my overcompetitiveness was clearly inherited. Half an hour of fruit carving with my folks will answer all your questions. 😉 

Only towards the end of my short trip did the reality of home hit me. The people I loved the most in this world were trying constantly to make this place called home, magical, and I visited them maybe once or twice a year. They’re struggles may not be visible but the pain of keeping up with technology changing faster than they can adapt and accepting our choice to live away from home, takes a toll on them.

Our generation has selfishly chosen career and wanderlust over family. Children then in that sense grow into ungrateful adults. Not consciously but because this is a social norm today.   I wonder if these thoughts are just my own…..

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Our fiction is slaughtering us. What got us here, won’t take us there.

Yuval Noah Hariri offers the opinion that sapiens of the genus homo survived and overtook their genetically similar and superior cousins due to our ability to spin fiction. 

Those of you who haven’t read the book, I highly recommend you do. I agree with him in theory that how else would it be possible for such a large number of people to unite. Look around yourself, everything you believe has power and accountability is fictitious. The countries we live in were named by us and the concept of patriotism has held us together but both of these ideas exist only in our minds.

The corporations we hate and demand accountability from for destroying our oceans and air are names that have lived on beyond their makers, they exist only as legal fiction on paper under the imaginary concept of law. Mankind has come a long way using this imaginary world to bind people together in common cause making it easier to govern, guide and mislead if needed. 

Today however, our imagination has gotten out of our control. We sit idly by as governments, which exist in their subject’s minds as bodies of fairness and power, destroy their people. We wait for another fictitious body, the UN to intervene, somehow believing that we can’t? We are held back by nothing physical just shackles of law, territory and power. 

Climate change which is a name given to a very real phenomenon that is happening around us does not capture simpler minds. We destroy tangible forests and kill living animals in the name of  development. We would much rather that refugees, real people, fleash and blood, die at our gates than understand that race, nationality and belonging are figments of our imagination. While the masses have no trouble placing faith in an unknown, unseen entity that will lead them to salvation, which itself exists in only our minds. 

So at what point does the scale tip? The stories that helped us shape our way of life and survive thousands of years replacing genetic progress with perceived intelligence are now turning against us. Thier very existence was justified by the idea of unity. Today they stand in the way of moving ahead. Rigid traditions based on ficitous stories are breaking nations apart. We are taking from mother earth faster than she can replenish, to fuel our imagination of what we deem a better future. 

The problems we face today are the ones we created. Can an intellectual overhaul be the answer or is this a call for evolution? 

Resolutions, the stepping stones to failure. Embrace the change that calls you instead. 

Every year, for God knows how long, people around the world have made resolutions on the 1st day of the year. It’s usually a list of habits that they believe they want to inculcate or makes t…

Source: Resolutions, the stepping stones to failure. Embrace the change that calls you instead. 

Resolutions, the stepping stones to failure. Embrace the change that calls you instead. 

Every year, for God knows how long, people around the world have made resolutions on the 1st day of the year. It’s usually a list of habits that they believe they want to inculcate or makes them better in comparison to popular benchmarks.

5 mins later..

Millions of broken resolutions sending waves of failure into the minds of their makers, encouraging the idea that change is hard and mediocrity is a norm. Stop yourselves! If you’d allow me to share some wisdom, I’d tell you that you can only truly make the changes you want to. But hey! I’ve been around only 27 years and for most of that time I was an idiot, so what do I know.

Let’s assume you’ve decided to continue reading and hear me out anyway. Personal failure has taught me that most times my perception of my future self is a combination of all things I appreciate but not necessarily want to embody. (You may have to read that sentence again)

My perception of my current self is based solely on my achievements and failures. Yes, I realize I’m preaching, but stay with me. Our subconscious has a way of prioritizing what we need most. So If you wanted to gym but never got to it, find the change that you have spent more time on naturally. You might find that you do actually have your priorities set, they just might not be the ones you thought you wanted.

The key is to get to know yourself first. Beyond the qualities, dreams, hopes, ambitions and the image that you share with the world. The person you are when you sit alone, thinking. Does that person want to read more? Run? Travel? What makes you better but also comfortable?  For the skeptics and idiots reading this, don’t interpret this as make no change. The key words are better AND comfortable.

So envision the change you want to see in yourself and evaluate if it’s something your true-self will enjoy. Not because the world considers it in high regard or helps you fit into a mould you appreciate.

Understand that change is slow. It took more than 2 decades to make the person you are today. ( if you’re younger than that, this shit ain’t for you, close this browser now). Make a long term plan with milestones and thoughtful concessions instead of a resolution. Most times this process will guide you to the most natural change you are willing to make.

At this point compare yourself to the person you were 5 years ago. Your tastes have matured and you have always chosen what you held important in that moment. If it was a good call, you’ve gotten better. If it was a bad call, you’ve still gotten better simply because you have the good sense to make that judgement today.

Avoiding the bigger issue Indian Govt vs Uber?

 

The Delhi govt is definitely appreciated for its quick and harsh move to ban Uber and other non-licensed taxi operators (ola ,taxi for sure). However, are we getting carried away on the core issue here? While I acknowledge that Uber, is in the wrong, we cannot disagree that these banned services, were the most affordable of the lot. Causing us to bear the brunt of poor governance yet again. Let’s look at the facts :
1. An ex-rapist is issued a tourist taxi licence ?
2. Companies are operating without proper background checks and it takes a rape for the law to intervene?
3. The media is chasing women safety stories and budgets are being allocated since 2014, measures are being planned since 2012?

Despite everyone acknowledging that women safety is an issue that is haunting India, no tangible solutions have been devised. Budgets are not solutions. They are procrastination mechanisms and promises of tomorrow.
Every story with big spotlight creates more fear in the women around India and more assurance that nothing will be done among the criminals.
Would we be better off looking for ways to ensure this doesn’t occur rather than the after math of justice and what little that would mean to the victim of this crime.
The real issue here is that the capital Delhi , a metro, the home to our strategists, the best equipped city to protect our women is constantly failing to do so. We should be asking for long term solutions to protect our daughters. A robust justice system is a requirement but where are answers to making the country safer?
Here is an article you might want to share with your loved ones.
http://m.timesofindia.com/15-personal-safety-apps-for-women/Scream-Alarm/itslideshow/45431526.cms

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Behind every successful woman…

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Lately, the most popular topic in my friend’s conversations seems to be the big M. However, it has not been followed by joy as it should.
There is fear,frustration and drama with a capital D. Sadly, most Indian parents will teach you to stay away from boys, your whole life. Then suddenly, expect you to be perfectly comfortable with a random, balding STRANGER sporting a moustache!!
Yup, your prince charming might be tall, dark and handsome…. or…. well, clean shaven and metro sexual. Thiers, is male with a heavy bank balance and born to their ideal family friends.
Many traditional Indian families, even among the educated sections are willing to sideline every dream or ambition their daughters have, in the pursuit, of marriage. Fortunately, I’m not, from one of these families and the reality of it baffles me!
Blame anyone you want, for the lack of women, at the forefront in India. The truth remains, that the most important people in their lives, are responsible for it.
How far have we really progressed , if we validate women by their marital status? and the kids they’ve birthed? Should parents be putting this kind of pressure, that pushes their children into making hasty decisions?
While I watch women my age, throw away their careers, leave cities they love and observe traditions they neither care for nor understand, I wonder, if behind every successful woman, there is…… a progressive more understanding family?

Is Uber’s price war compromising the safety of its customers??

I’ve been a fan and a regular user of the service since it launched in Bangalore. However lately my experience has been less than pleasant.  They have started a price war with unbelievable discounts causing the demand for their service for increase. This obviously means they have more drivers tying up and the new ones have clearly not been through a thorough background check.
1.Drivers are now calling up and saying they don’t want to pick you up if they are busy and ask you to cancel the trip
2. Can you rate a driver you haven’t travelled with? So how does one change this?
3. Cabs are not as easily available and the waiting time has increased
4. Some drivers have no idea how to properly follow the location which means a lot of back and forth calls to explain causing frustration at the clients end.
5.Safety: a driver I booked recently refused to come to our point since he wasn’t sure how to get there! Its on the map for crying out loud. Due to no other available cabs we were forced to walk up to where he was parked late at night.
6. The incident that just occurred in Delhi might have just destroyed the brands credibility. Especially since they are still new and the question of women safety is one of India’s biggest talked about problems this year.

How this unfurls we will have to wait and watch. But personally I do think the brand has made some compromises lately that have lead to a poor customer experience.